Look at your Facebook page, do you have hundreds, maybe thousands of “friends”? What about Twitter, Instagram, BlogFrog, and all the other networks, how many total follows and friends do you have? Social media has opened a whole new world of friends. We constantly build relationships every day. Your mother used to tell you, “You can count your true friends on one hand”. That has now proven to be false. I can say I have been truly blessed with some of the friendships I’ve built online. Most of these friendships strengthen online as time goes on but when you meet in person you create a bond.
“A cheerful friend is like a sunny day spreading brightness all around.”
– John Lubcock ( English Astronomer )
When growing up there were always circles of friends, this is true online too, only on a larger scale.
Lastly you have your Besties– This could be someone you talk to everyday or at least every other day. They may live across the country and you communicate online or by phone, or they can live down the street from you and you see them all the time. Sometimes a bestie can be the worst thing in the world for you. How? If one of your besties (Or someone in one of your circles) is a miserable person, nothing makes them happy, a complainer, a flappin lip gossiper, non goal or dream driven…..you know the type, the Debbie Downers. I’m sure someone popped in your head. You need to cut your ties! Did you know that if you surround yourself with these types of friends you can kiss your dreams goodbye? Well it’s true. Surround yourself with positive people and positivity will come out, they don’t need to be your best friend or in your closest circles. Milk does the body good. Positive people does the brain and soul good.
I’d rather have an enemy that hates me instead of friends who secretly put me down ~unknown
No makeup in this world can cover up an ugly heart ~unknown
I encourage you to take a step back and access your friendships. We all have bad days and need to vent to our friends but if you are spending every day trying to pick up a friends spirit, the time has come to move on. Sometimes there’s no making some people happy. Once you move on, you’ll feel refreshed and free. If you were married or in an abusive relationship, you’d leave right? So now is your time to reach for the stars and find those friends who will reach with you or better yet, help you build your rocket to get there.
Friendship isn’t about whom you have known the longest… It’s about who came, and never left your side…
September 14th, 2012 at 4:43 pm
Rachel, I think anyone whose path crosses with yours has been blessed in countless ways. This post is amazing and the fact that you included pictures where you have met countless “friends” in person is amazing. Someday I hope to meet you and if the gods are good we’ll be the bread to a Jon Bon Jovi sandwich for our photo opp! Love you to the moon. Never forget, You Rock!
September 20th, 2012 at 1:39 am
Julee
I consider myself very lucky to have those above a part of my life. One day we will meet and I too hope it’s at Bon Jovi! But I get to kiss him first HA!
September 20th, 2012 at 3:01 am
Gteat post, Rach! and something I’ve been assessing lately, not just in my “online” friendships but in my “off line” ones as well.
Ps-
…. Did we really room together and not get 1 single picture?
September 20th, 2012 at 11:29 am
Corine!
I know what the heck… you know you are in my bestie group and I’m keeping you!! xoxo
September 20th, 2012 at 7:43 am
You are awesome, just sayin.
September 20th, 2012 at 1:32 pm
So are you Li!!!!!!
September 20th, 2012 at 7:56 am
Love this post Rachel! You’ve got that “friend thing” down! Feel privileged that I got to be in one of your pictures! Love that picture of you and Zippy!
September 20th, 2012 at 1:32 pm
How much do I owe you NOW?
Seriously, I have NO idea how I’d be sane without you, Lisa, Sandy and my “crew.” I ADORE my friends.
September 20th, 2012 at 3:12 pm
I love you!!
September 20th, 2012 at 3:27 pm
Love this post Rachel, and not just because of the shout out, and how much I adore you, but because the topic is so close to my heart.
Here are four awesome quotes I often use related to the topic especially when I am trying to help my daughters understand who I want them to be…
“Call it a clan, call it a network, call it a tribe, call it a family. Whatever you call it, whoever you are, you need one.” ~Jane Howard
“A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out.” ~Walter Winchell
“The only way to have a friend is to be one.” -~Ralph Waldo Emerson
“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.” ~Dr. Seuss
Let’s take back the word “Friend”!… http://www.tedrubin.com/let%E2%80%99s-take-back-the-word-%E2%80%9Cfriend%E2%80%9D/
September 20th, 2012 at 3:44 pm
Very well written. I meet my nearest and dearest “Bestie’ via the internet. Friends for over two years now and I adore her. We are launching a web series together, have a company together, she’s amazing and I am blessed.
September 23rd, 2012 at 11:57 am
Love you lady. When am I going to see you again?